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Who Wants to be a Coward?

No one wants to be a coward, so if we knowacknowledging them. If we can't admit them or
what it takes to be a coward, perhaps we canif we actually enjoy our subtle, controlling,
avoid  becoming  one!manipulative ways, no self-help book in the
world will help, and even worse; if we are
When we read books or articles on how we canthe type that feels we need no help at all,
improve, or self-help books that tell us howwell . . . then we are probably beyond help.
we can help ourselves, we are in a twilightIn that case, we must learn the hard lessons
zone of assumptions and speculation. To geton our own; the lesons that our karma will
real, all we need to do is look at ourselveschurn  out
- what we are doing now and how we were
acting yesterday - this is where we learn.Authentic freedom is never freedom from; it
When we look away from what we really are, itis always just . . . freedom. Freedom is a
is because admitting what we really are isstate of mind - boundless and uninhibited -
too painful. Instead, we lose ourselves inthe mind of a hero. The mind of a coward is
books and imaginations of what we should be,suspicious and fearful all the time; fearful
then, instead of seeing and facing ourof new ideas, different thoughts and anything
cowardice, we imagine ourselves as heroes.that  disturbs  its  delusions.
The problem with this is that until we see
and acknowledge our cowardice, it will notAuthentic freedom, on the other hand, is a
change. So the first step in avoidingrelease from all of this. Authentic freedom
cowardice  is  seeing  it.is the opposite of attempting to keep things
from changing, because things do in fact
How we conduct ourselves in relationship withchange regardless of our most committed
others indicates our state of mind. If weattempts to keep things the same.
come from a controlling place whereConservatism, if looked at closely, is filled
everything has to be our way, we arewith fear - the fear of change. For a moment,
displaying our cowardice because whilethink about what it is that we are fearful
cowards hide behind their concepts andof. Why do we constantly pick up one
hypothesis, heroes have their eyes wide openself-help book after another, and they never
at all times for new possibilities. When wehelp for long? It's because we never get to
hide behind beliefs and theories at thethe  root  of  our  problems.
expense of seeing what is happening at this
very moment, or what is real, we display ourIf we study ourselves in depth, which is a
fears. If our beliefs foster guilt,form of meditation, we would quickly discover
repression, fear, hatred, separation,what it is that we are fearful of; which is
sectarianism, and judgementalism rather thansimply not being happy. But instead of
creating love, compassion, forgiveness, andexploring our unhappiness and fear, we
true generosity, and if this is what we areattempt to become free from fear . . . and
teaching our children by our actions; then weembrace happiness. This doesn't work. Only in
will lose our children, as well as our ownthe " seeing" of our fear and our
souls.unhappiness, followed by the acceptance of
our fear and unhappiness, offers the
We remain hostage to fear when we hide frompossibility  of  transcending  both.
anything, especially our deep psychological
tendencies that we have cultivated over aFor it's only when we stop trying to
lifetime. In order to become free from thesecultivate bravery and reject cowardice, and
tendencies and become what all of theseinstead accept what we are in every moment,
self-help books suggest, we must find afully and unabashedly, does the possibility
general freedom; this is the bottom line. Toexist  of  changing  ourselves fundamentally.
become free, however, involves facing our
tendencies head on, and this meansAnd therein lies the possibility of freedom.



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